Your sense of self-worth is how you feel about yourself and the extent to which you value yourself as a soul, as a human being and as a woman. It’s what shapes the quality of your relationships, the work you choose and how you do it, the decisions you make and the general path of your life as a whole.
This is because the degree of your self-worth decides what you believe about yourself, about other people and about what you can expect from life.
It’s therefore important to be aware of your own level of self-worth
Self-worth and self-esteem are not self-importance, arrogance, entitlement, false pride, being ‘awesome’ or any other kind of ‘famous’, over-confident ‘superhero’, but rather a quiet, solid sense of inner awareness of your own intrinsic value.
When you have genuine self-worth you won’t need to shout it from the rooftops because you will understand, on a deep level, that you are a sacred soul that has been called into being for a reason and that your life is purposeful and meaningful. This has nothing to do with trying to impress anyone else but about getting on with the task of becoming all that you’re designed to be.
Your self-worth informs what you expect of yourself and from other people
Knowing that you’re ‘someone’ in the true sense of the word (and not a pumped-up and self-inflated artificial construction), means that you naturally radiate self-worth – and therefore you attract people, situations and circumstances that reflect this.
My own sense of self-worth has taken a long time to develop – and I continue to work on it
Part of my journey to recognise and remember my self-worth has been to understand that I’m okay, just as I am. This doesn’t mean that I feel myself to be perfect – far from it, but rather that I no longer need to prove that I’m worthy of existence.
I now know that I don’t have to keep trying harder and harder and pushing myself more and more to justify my existence. I know that I can continue to do my best, within my limits and my capacity – and that that is enough.
There is a great freedom in this because it influences the intention with which I now approach everything
Rather than assuming I have to overexert myself to prove something, I have the relief of being able to offer what I can, as sincerely as I can, and to feel content with that. This changes the whole tenor of my life and everything in it.
If I’d had a better sense of my own self-worth in the past I’d have:
- Chosen partners and friends who treated me as a valuable human being, worthy of respect, consideration and love
- Known when to change or end unhealthy relationships that eroded my already poor sense of self-worth
- Been more authentic in the decisions I made about what to do and what not to do
- Treated my body with more self-respect – and this includes how I fed it, rested it, exercised it, dressed it and how I allowed others to treat it
- Been able to put boundaries in place to protect myself so that I wasn’t taken for granted
- Known better what my own authentic contribution was in friendships, work and service to others
- Made more quality time for prayer, meditation and a focus on the things that enrich my life
- Trusted myself and my own inner knowing to lead me forward in authentic, meaningful and fulfilling ways
This isn’t to say that I get this right all of the time, but that I’m now a lot more clear as to my own path
The self-worth that I’ve developed over time means that I now seldom fall into these traps – and if I do, I can catch myself and get myself back a whole lot faster.
Our true sense of self-worth is built into us by definition of our creation as noble souls – but this can be worn away and distorted over the course of our lives and what we’re conditioned to believe about ourselves. In this way we can forget the truth of who we are and the value of our inherent worth.
Having a quiet sense of self-worth doesn’t mean that you need to prove anything or to be better than anyone else. Rather, it means that you know you’re worthy by the very fact that you exist. Everything else flows from this.
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