Over the course of this past year, we’ve covered many aspects of developing individual personal style and learning to become experts on ourselves. Playing with and learning about clothes, style, accessories and colour are fun and helpful but they also have significant and far-reaching effects, beyond the deceptively simple pleasure of it all.
To understand why this is so, it can be helpful to think of humanity as a bird with two wings, one being women and the other men. In order for this bird to fly properly and to achieve the heights of its potential, both wings need to be equally strong. However, for many reasons including lack of education and a lack of opportunity, the female wing of the bird has not yet been able to become as strong as the male wing of the bird of humanity. Although we see many positive changes in the world, there’s still quite a way to go to for full equality to be achieved. So, while it may seem superficial to focus on clothes and personal style, this has a deeper significance and a bearing on the equality of women and men.
Think about the days when you’re happy with your hair and your clothes and when you know you look good in a way that feels authentic, natural and comfortable to you. Don’t you find that you also then feel good on those days? Do you notice how you automatically get a spring in your step and how you feel more confident, happier and more empowered, as if you can take on the world?
There is significance in this because, when women feel more confident and empowered, they are much more likely to speak up and to make themselves heard. They are also more likely to contribute their insights, wisdom and experience in their homes and with their families, in the workplace, in their communities and in society at large. They are therefore more likely to take their rightful place in all spheres of human endeavor – and this then strengthens the female wing of the bird. And when the bird of humanity is able to fly, everyone benefits. Men, women and children are taken higher and can profit from full equality.
Another advantage of the equality of women and men is that we have more chance of peace when women participate fully in the affairs of the world. When women enter confidently and capably into the affairs of the world, war will cease because woman will have the power to prevent it. At a time in the future when women are sharing completely in the consultation and decision-making processes of their societies and countries, there will be peace as they will not allow the children that they have so patiently and lovingly raised to be sent to fight and be killed in wars.
So, seen in this light, clothes aren’t just ‘clothes’. They are much more in that they are a way for you to get to know and understand yourself better, to strengthen yourself and to empower yourself so you can expand and deepen your life. They can help you to have more confidence, to express your true self and to change your life in meaningful ways. Starting a new job or a new business or a new relationship or a course of study are all that much easier when you feel good about yourself.
Developing your individual style is therefore more than a personal makeover – ideally, it’s about real transformation. Think about this when you’re putting together an outfit that’s comfortable enough for you to play unencumbered with your children or to stand with confidence as you deliver your presentation at work or to move and to express yourself or when you run freely with pure joy in clothes that allow you to do so. Every time the colours or accessories you wear make you feel more alive or empowered and carry you through your day, know that you’re making a difference to the world, one perfect, comfortable and real outfit at a time!