Your clothes are much more than the latest fashion or just something to keep out the weather. EVERYTHING THAT YOU CHOOSE TO WEAR AFFECTS YOU ON SOME LEVEL, whether it’s the colour, texture, style or a combination of all of these.
We know from science that colour is the result of light waves vibrating at different speeds and frequencies and that the effects of colour can be measured. As a result, we all respond to different colours, whether we’re aware of it or not.
If you want to feel more JOYFUL or confident or to calm down or concentrate better or be more persuasive – or any of the many other effects and energies that colours create within us, wear particular colours and you will notice the effects within yourself as well as with others.
So if you’re wearing one of the shades of pink – and pink ranges from a soft pastel pink through to bold shocking pink – the frequency of the colour will bring JOY to you and to those around you.
The ‘elevated emotions’ are those such as JOY, love, gratitude, peace and inspiration which have a very high vibration and which put you in a naturally lofty energetic state. And when you’re in a JOYFUL and elevated state, you’re more likely to attract more positive people and situations. You BECOME HEALTHIER AND HAPPIER, MORE LOVING, POSITIVE, FRIENDLY, CREATIVE AND PRODUCTIVE – which makes life in general easier and more fulfilling.
If you don’t have anything pink in your wardrobe, consider getting a scarf or pashmina or cardigan or T-shirt or flip flops or socks or earrings in pink – start small if you’re not used to wearing pink – but give it a try. And, if you KNOW YOUR TRUE SELF STYLE WORDS©, you’ll be better able to know if the pink that’s right for you is a pastel pink, a bright pink – or somewhere inbetween.
Pink also embodies womanhood, compassion, heart-based love, friendliness and spirituality so let the shades of pink bring you these wonderful energies!
You may have noticed (observed ) that every Wednesday we give you a painting or photo with a colour swatch next to it. This is part of our encouragement to you to start learning how to combine colours in interesting ways – and to use Nature as your guide for inspiration.
When you start training your eye to really OBSERVE the colours around you and to notice how Nature combines colours, a whole new wardrobe will open up for you.
People often tell me that brown doesn’t go with black or that blue doesn’t go with green or that pink doesn’t go with orange … BUT THEY DO!
If you look at a basket of puppies you’ll see how beautifully brown matches with black and white. Look at a field of cows and appreciate the richness of the black, brown and white together.
Look at where green grass, trees or water meet the blue of the sky and you will be quite satisfied that you can try the same with your own clothes.
Start looking at the colours of Nature wherever you see them. Look at a pile of autumn leaves in a gutter and notice the rich variety of shades – brown, rust, cream, pale yellow and olive green – and see how you could use some of these together in an outfit.
For example, look for a summer dress in a pattern of white, blue and green or add a scarf, jacket, cardigan, shoes, earrings or necklace in turquoise or cool blue to a white dress or white T-shirt.
Look for sunrise or sunset colours in patterns for clothes or accessories or use pinks, oranges and yellows as accessories to add interest and personality to your outfit.
This is how you personalise your Core Wardrobe Plan and your own personal style!
Knowing and using your True Self Style Words© is one of the most effective ways I know to become more AUTHENTIC. Your individual set of words will help you get to know who you really are (apart from what you’ve been told about yourself J). This then automatically helps you to manage your clothes and personal style – as well as the ever-changing fashions. (An added bonus is that this authenticity spills over into all other areas of your life, thus making everything flow more easily).
This system works so effectively because, when you know yourself and your lifestyle really well, you’re less likely to be persuaded to buy things that aren’t right for you.
For example, if you like to buy new clothes with the change of seasons, BEFORE you start reading the fashion pages or being influenced by WHAT’S IN AND WHAT’S OUT, do the True Self Style Words© (there are hundreds of words to choose from in my book Reclaiming Beauty – Look like your True Self – See the link below) exercise again. It’s always a good idea to do this exercise regularly anyway as it gives you an opportunity to self-reflect and to assess where you are in your life and how you’re feeling about things. In this way your clothes keep you awake, aware and on track!
And then once you know what your True Self Style Words© are, it’s safe to see what the world of fashion and trends has to offer you.
When you’re empowered in this way, you’ll be able to assess what you want to buy and what you can ignore from the seasonal fashions. So, if the colour scheme for the season isn’t right for you (‘The JUNGLE LOOK is IN for summer’) and you don’t feel good in animal prints, you can disregard it completely (there will be another new theme along in a few months anyway so there’s no need to panic J!) or you could just buy a belt, handbag, scarf or shoes in a zebra or giraffe print and add this to your Core Wardrobe. In this way you will still feel fashionable but you won’t be going all-out with a head-to-toe new wardrobe in leopard print!
And then, when the next season comes along and the theme is MILITARY and you love boxy jackets and masculine trousers and high shiny boots, you can stock up!
Reclaiming Beauty – Look like your True Self
This week, the focus is on becoming more AWARE of how you think and behave – and your shopping habits are a really good place to start reflecting on what you do and WHY you do what you do.
One of the main ways that the fashion industry ensures that you keep spending money is to CHANGE EVERYTHING from the previous season so that you feel ‘out of date’ when you wear clothes you bought only a few months or a year before.
For example, jackets in one season will be short with narrow lapels and then the next season they will be longer, with wider lapels. Or they will be fitted this season and then loose and flowing next season. These changes make the clothes from the previous season look ‘old-fashioned’ and dated to you, even though there is nothing wrong with them (unless you bought things just because they were fashionable, even if they didn’t suit you J).
Trouser styles will change from loose and wide-legged to fitted and straight-legged or from low-waisted to high-waisted – AND THEN BACK AGAIN.
Or the fashionable colours will change radically from pastels to brights or the theme of the season will change from something streamlined such as THE NAUTICAL LOOK to something very soft and floaty such as THE ROMANTIC LOOK.
This system ensures that the ‘new’ styles look NEW and the ‘old’ styles look OLD! And, because this has been going on forever, we’ve mostly become conditioned to follow the system and do what we’re told!
So, start observing this system at work and stay AWARE. Notice if you feel a bit old-fashioned and out-of-date in your clothes from last season. Notice if you have an urge to buy and consume more clothes because of this. Notice if you feel this even if you already have a wardrobe full of clothes and don’t have lots of spare cash to buy even more than you already have!
Remember, if you’re feeling any of these feelings … it’s because THE FASHION INDUSTRY IS DESIGNED TO MAKE YOU TO FEEL THIS WAY!
Become very AWARE of how you feel and don’t allow yourself to be manipulated or controlled by fashion.
You can use fashion wisely by knowing yourself, your personal style and your lifestyle so well that it’s easy for you to choose what you need from what the fashion industry offers each season.
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In order to use fashion wisely, you need to be COMFORTABLE WITHIN YOURSELF – or there’s the risk that you will lose yourself in the powerful fashion system and end up wearing what it dictates, rather than what SUITS YOU BEST. Fashion itself can be fun, exciting and inspiring – BUT you need to be careful that you manage it wisely so that it doesn’t manage you. If you’ve ever found yourself reading fashion mags or watching fashion TV and feeling that you ABSOLUTELY HAVE to have these new things for yourself, no matter what …. please know that you’re not going crazy! This is exactly how the fashion industry WANTS YOU TO FEEL!
Firstly, it’s important to remember that fashion is an industry and that, just like any other industry, it wants to make money. You also need to know the ways that this industry has to make sure that you keep you buying and spending as much as possible. Then you can be prepared and empowered so that you’re not manipulated by the system.
In order to keep making a profit, the fashion industry requires a regular, ongoing turnover with PEOPLE LIKE YOU BUYING NEW STUFF ALL THE TIME!
There are many people who buy new clothes and shoes every single week – and some even shop for new things every day! This is a habit which has come to seem so ‘normal’ that they don’t even see anything strange about it.
If you’re one of these people, stop for a moment to think about this habit. Relentless shopping for new things can easily become an addiction which wastes time and money and stands in the way of a wiser and more conscious use of your energy and resources.
If you add up the amount of money that you’ve wasted on clothes that are still in their bags, with their price tags still on them, you will be shocked!
Over the course of the next few weeks, we’ll be looking at how you can enjoy fashion and have fun with it, while also using it to your best advantage.
DON’T BUY CLOTHES TO SLIM INTO – SALES OR NO SALES
It can be tempting when the sales are on to buy clothes which you plan – and hope – to slim into. Try to avoid doing this as I’ve almost never seen this tactic work! We tend to think that the smaller size will inspire us to lose weight but it usually has the opposite effect. This is because, every time we see this item, still unworn, we feel guilty about spending the money and still not being able to fit into it. And this then makes us feel worse – and more inclined to eat unhealthily to make up for it! So the supposed inspiration becomes something that makes us sad and unhealthy, rather than slim and happy.
It’s much better to start eating in a healthy way before you start buying new clothes because when you have slimmed down to your right-size body, you will be in a better position to choose what suits you best. So it’s wiser to wait and enjoy shopping wisely when the time comes.
It makes sense and it’s worth it!
LOOKING AND FEELING CONFIDENT
Many of us wish that we were a bit more confident and often envy those who seem able to speak up for themselves without a trace of shyness. It is good for us to be able to say what we need to say, to be assertive when required and to feel assured in our lives, so having confidence is a useful attribute.
It’s also important to differentiate between brashness and the quiet confidence which comes from inner assurance. It’s this quiet assurance that that allows us to feel that we are in control of ourselves and our lives – and this is where our clothes can be very helpful and supportive.
It works this way: If you’re feeling a bit shy or unsure of yourself and you dress in a way that looks confident – such as wearing a coral or pink jacket, carrying a pink or red handbag or wearing a wrap in a bold colour, people automatically assume that you’re confident. They don’t know that you’re shaking in your shoes but just respond to you as if you really are as confident as you look. And when people treat you as if you are already confident, you take this on and easily behave and carry yourself with more confidence.
In this way, your choice of brighter colours in your clothes and accessories can carry you through whatever you’re doing and help to build genuine confidence within you.
Try this for yourself and you’ll be pleasantly surprised. When you use your clothes consciously, they can take your from where you are now to where you want to be in effortless and fun ways!
Here are some related blog posts you might be interested in.
“BUT I CAN’T WEAR FUCHSIA!” – Feedback from last week.
Fuchsia is a very bright, hot pink and it can sometimes seem overwhelming to wear and many people assume that you have to be very confident or very young to wear it.
But bright colours like this don’t necessarily need to be worn as an overall colour, such as in a fuchsia dress or cardigan or jacket, but can be included as small touches to add style and interest to an outfit.
As in everything else that you do, who you truly are as a person is the basic foundation and starting point for putting together an authentic personal style. And knowing your individual True Self Style Words© is a vital part of this.
So, if any of your True Self Style Words© are Bright, Confident, Dynamic, Outgoing or Vivacious, then you’ll quite likely feel comfortable wearing a jacket or dress in fuchsia pink. But if your True Self Style Words© include words such as Quiet, Gentle, Sensitive, Soft or Private you’ll probably be less attracted to wearing a colour that is very bright and which draws attention to you.
We’re all different and the more that we recognise and respect this, the better. Our essential differences are one of the reasons that we should be careful about trying to follow fashion too closely. Fashion, with its seasonal colours, themes and styles doesn’t necessarily take our individuality into consideration. As a result, each season we’re told that certain styles and colours are either ‘IN’ or ‘OUT’. So, it’s announced that ‘Navy is the new black’ or ‘The Boho look is In for Winter’ or ‘Look Nautical this Summer’ with no consideration for our different personalities, bodies or skin tone.
Over the next few weeks we’ll address how to deal with managing fashion wisely but for now, let’s see how to use all the glorious colours out there in ways that suit us.
Just because you’re Quiet and Sensitive doesn’t mean that you can’t have the fun of some fuchsia pink (or red, coral, orange – or any other of the brighter colours) in your wardrobe. Instead of wearing a dress or whole outfit in hot pink, you could add touches of a bright colour as an accessory. You could try pink flip flops with your jeans and white T-shirt or thread a bright scarf through the loops of your jeans or trousers. Or you could add an orange handbag or red scarf to your corporate grey, chocolate brown or navy suit. A simple white sundress will be personalised and enhanced by a pink bracelet and pink beaded sandals.
The options are endless and once you start experimenting like this with some of the livelier colours and your creativity starts flowing, you’ll get an immediate added air of confidence!