I found my own divorce very difficult and painful. I’d been married for ten years and, even though it hadn’t been an easy marriage for me, I didn’t really believe it would end. I thought that, if I did whatever I could to try and iron out my own rough spots, I’d be able to hold things together.
You can only change yourself
I always knew that you cannot change anyone else, so I tried my hardest to heal myself so that the marriage could become the meaningful and supportive relationship that I longed for.
Any intimate relationship – and especially a marriage – will bring out issues in us that show where healing is required. My own marriage highlighted many outdated beliefs, assumptions and traditional ideas that I’d inherited from my family, culture and society that I wasn’t aware I had – and that I then needed to address.
I’m grateful for my marriage
In this way, my marriage was a great blessing because I learned a lot about who I really am. I learned some of the things that I liked in myself and some things that I clearly needed to take responsibility to change in myself.
Even though the marriage came to an end, I will always be grateful for the experience and all that I came to understand and to appreciate from this time.
The end of a marriage is never easy
I regard marriage as a sacred and divine institution that, in its intended form, is a source of comfort, support, security, well-being, companionship and joy. For these reasons, I did not take the matter lightly and I tried, within the limits of my capacity and circumstances, not to leave any stone unturned to make the marriage work.
But, no matter the efforts that have been made, no matter the time involved, no matter how necessary it feels to take this step, the end of a marriage isn’t simple or easy.
A cocktail of emotions
Even after all the years which have passed since my divorce, I clearly remember my mixed feelings of grief and heartbreak, stress and fear, confusion and disorientation, disappointment and loss at the end of everything I’d hoped for – as well as the feelings of relief, freedom and excitement that were there too. It was an exhausting and poignant time.
There aren’t enough words to tell you how hard the process was for me. But I also need to tell you that, now I’m through it all and it’s well in into the past, I have ultimately blossomed and thrived as a result of the whole process. I’m now stronger, wiser, happier and more fulfilled than I could have ever believed was possible.
Divorce is the last resort
Please know that I wouldn’t wish a divorce on anyone but, because of how difficult and stressful it was for me, one of the remedies that I wanted to include in my Signature Range was to give support to anyone who has to go through something similar to me.
The Divorce Support remedy was created to give you the steadfastness, courage and perseverance you need at this time. It’s designed to carry you when you need it most and has everything within it that I wish I’d had when I went through my own divorce. You too can grow and benefit from this testing time.
This remedy has the potential to:
• Support you to feel calm and strong in the midst of inner and outer turmoil
• Stimulate independence, self-reliance and assertiveness to take charge of your own life
• Ease nostalgia for what might have been so you can adapt and move on more easily
• Give you courage, willpower and optimism as you move into a fresh new chapter
• Strengthen, soften and purify the heart to forgive and open up to unconditional love
• Help to protect you when you feel vulnerable, exposed and embarrassed
• Give you detachment, mental clarity and focus for effective decision-making and honest communication
• Increase patience and perseverance when you feel tired and overwhelmed
• Ease depression, confusion, shock, denial, persistent thoughts and fears
• Help you to nurture yourself and your children
• Increase your enjoyment of life and gives you wings to fly!
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Genie Rowson is my own brilliant homeopath and it was under her auspices that I had the privilege of developing these remedies that are so close to my heart. It’s also really worth considering an appointment with Genie!