Over and over, in workshops and in individual consultations, I have the discussion about whether ‘black is slimming’. Women are adamant that black makes them look slimmer and so they wear lots and lots of it, no matter what the season and no matter whether it suits them or not.
When I’m working with people’s wardrobes in their homes, there is never a shortage of black and I always need to search a bit to find their items of colour that can be used to bring interest, individuality and life into their personal style.
Looking ‘slim’ no matter what?
It’s worth reflecting a little bit on why this attachment to black is so prevalent – and why women will sacrifice looking beautiful in colour for the hope of appearing slimmer. The paramount desire to look slim is so strong that most women seldom question whether black is flattering to them or not.
How much slimmer can black actually make you look? And even if it may make you appear a bit slimmer, is it worth giving up the confident glow that wearing colour gives you?
When you look alive, happy and beautiful in colour, your weight becomes far less of an issue because you look so good in your clothes.
Black may not even suit your skin tone
Black, as a colour, does look good on certain people but it often looks better on paler skins than on darker skins. Darker skins look beautiful in almost every colour, while paler skins need to be a little more careful to choose flattering colours. (If your skin and hair are light, then black will look better on you if you add some makeup or a bright lipstick.)
All women look great in colour!
I do an exercise in every clothing workshop so that people can see with their own eyes the difference between wearing black and wearing colour. It’s always easy to show this magical trick as most women in the group will be wearing black (‘Oh Glynis, it’s so much easier to wear black!’, ‘But, Glynis, I look so much slimmer in black!’) – and the few who have on some colour always stand out in the room and attract my eye without their having to say a word.
I always have with me some colourful scarves and a mirror so that I can illustrate the effect of colour. As I wrap a scarf of red or lilac or turquoise around someone’s shoulders, the group always gasps as they see the difference – it’s as if the person has come alive without doing or saying a thing! And the group then gasps again as I remove the colour and they can clearly see the how she person seems to disappear into the background again.
I see time and time again how women smile more, sit straighter and walk taller when they see how they look in colour. This simple and quick change is huge and they immediately become more open to trying other new things – new ideas and new concepts as well as new styles.
You can try bright colours or softer colours
If you prefer not to stand out too much, you can still look and feel better by wearing colour – just play around with softer shades. (And if you’d like to be a bit more confident, it may be interesting for you to try one of my Signature Remedy sprays to build your inner confidence and self-esteem as this will give you the support you need to try some new colours and some new looks.)
Wear black wisely
If you love black but it’s not ideal for your skin tone, then rather wear it on the lower half of your body, in pants or skirts. Then add some colour to the top half of your body. Play with rust, turquoise, teal, aqua, butter yellow, lilac, leaf green or chocolate brown and notice how alive, happy, confident and beautiful you look – this is far preferable to looking a little bit slimmer!
It’s just as easy to put on a colourful jacket or shirt or to add a bright scarf or necklace than it is to put on black.
Looking beautiful makes you feel beautiful and this then makes you more confident, productive, assertive, self-assured and joyful – just by adding some colour to your life!
If you’d like to experiment with colour
A practical footnote to this: As I work with so many women and I see their reluctance to leave the safety of black and their nervousness about trying colour, I developed the Look and Be Beautiful Remedy spray to help you move to this new stage of self-confidence and self-expression. It has everything in it to help you to remember your true inner beauty so that you can express this in your clothes and personal style.
Contact me if you’d like a ‘Shopping in Your Wardrobe’ consultation at home: firstname.lastname@example.org