Ok, you may not be going on a ‘first date’ but you may be going to a reunion or a special party or an interview or to a new job or you may just want to look good. And if you’re going to any of these special occasions, would you choose the old worn shirt or pants that don’t fit you that well or the usual outfits that you put on because you’re tired or late or can’t think what else to wear?
This is a very helpful question to ask yourself and it’s one that I ask all my clients when they’re trying to decide whether they want to keep an item of clothing or not.
DON’T KEEP CLOTHES JUST FOR THE SAKE OF IT
I understand that we can get attached to something that we’ve had for ages and so this question can really clarify the issue in your mind:
‘If you were going on a first date (or anywhere that you want to look your best) would you pick this blouse/skirt/jacket or would you choose how you look in this new outfit we’ve just created?’
This makes it very clear.
Don’t keep clothes just for the sake of it. They take up space and, if they don’t make you look sensational, they could rather go to someone else who would look good in them.
When you’re clearing out your wardrobe (whether you’re doing this with me, on your own or with a friend), try asking yourself this question and you’ll see how much easier it is to let old, unflattering items go.
ONLY KEEP CLOTHES THAT MAKE YOU LOOK AND FEEL FABULOUS
You want everything you own to make you look and feel good. It’s not necessary to hold on to things for ‘in-case’ because you’re never going to pick that item if you want to look your best.
While we all need relaxing, comfortable, down-time clothes, we don’t need a whole wardrobe of them! You can have a few soft, shlumfy clothes for washing your car or your dog or for gardening or cleaning the kitchen cupboards – but try to have most of your clothes be lovely, flattering and inspiring to you.
Then your clothes can support you and give you courage, motivation and inspiration to be the best you can be. They take their rightful place as your support. They become a means to an end and not an end in themselves.
And if you do go on a first date or important outing, you will have just the clothes you need!