This is one of my favourite questions to ask in workshops because we all get to laugh at how ridiculous we are! I have never yet had a workshop or group where nobody puts up their hand in answer to the questions: ‘Who here has clothes with the price tags still on them? And who here has clothes that are still in their carrier bags?”
People are embarrassed but they’re also happy to know that they’re not alone and that many, many women fall victim to this practice. (Naturally, I never bother asking men this question as they would think I was crazy!)
If you’ve ever done this, here are some reasons why:
- The item was on sale and so it seemed like a bargain – but, because it was an impulse buy, it doesn’t necessarily suit you, your lifestyle or your body.
- You were feeling a bit down at the time and so you thought that something new would perk you up – but the fact that you’ve never worn it shows that it wasn’t really an effective solution to the problem!
- Even though it was too small, you thought that it would spur you on to slim into it – but, again, the fact that it’s still unworn is proof this idea wasn’t that sound after all!
- You don’t really have a clear picture of your personal style so you keep buying random things in the hopes of of getting it right – but yet more unworn and unsuitable clothes show that you need to better understand the needs of your body, your lifestyle and your personality to keep you from repeating this mistake.
You don’t have to do this!
The solution to all this wasted time and money – not to mention the guilt and the clutter of unnecessary stuff – is to know your yourself, your individual proportions, the needs of your lifestyle – and your budget. If you added up all the money you’ve spent on clothes that don’t suit you or your life, you would be shocked – and upset.
It may be helpful to remember that no amount of material things will ever satisfy you in the long-term because your need for more and more stuff is generally coming from a deeper inner need.
These tips may help you break the habit
If you find that you can’t resist buying clothes – even though you know that you have more than you can ever wear and that this habit is a great waste of your hard-earned resources, then consider some of the following before you buy:
- Stop and pause and take 10 – 20 deep breaths to settle yourself.
- Then ask yourself: What do I think these new things are going to give me? Is there something more meaningful that I can do to get inner satisfaction?
- Remove yourself from the store (tell yourself it’s just for a while) and sit and have a cup of tea or coffee until the compulsion has passed.
- Call a reliable and supportive friend who will remind you of what you already know: that it isn’t in your highest good to waste more money.
Freedom and clarity
You will feel a great sense of self-empowerment when you take control of this addictive habit – and your healthy bank account and uncluttered wardrobe will be your reward!